We’ve all heard the expression – ‘to where one’s heart on one’s sleeve’. I feel pretty awesome right now for coming up with another one that indicates a habit that’s even more common– ‘to where one’s mouth one’s sleeve’. Yes! I have especially been a victim of this. Sometimes it works magic and sometimes it works getting looked at really weird.

 

So one day I decided to find alternative- being that I made and am still making conscious efforts to be extraordinary as a person. And one of the ways to do this is to be extraordinary in speech.

To memorize to heart, to affirm, to compliment, to communicate a positive glossary of vocabulary, as a daily part of our life.

What’s equally important is making conscious efforts to avoid using certain words, with the intention to completely erase them from your vocabulary.

 

Take the word ‘no’ for example.  This is one of the most, if not the most negatively associated words used – across all countries, all languages. Yet it is one of the most commonly used words.  And the majority of people aren’t even aware of it.  I will be using it in this blog post only for demonstration purposes.

 

Think about it. Is the word ‘no’ ever used for agreeing with someone, showing someone support, or acceptance? Is the word ‘no ‘ever used to show persuasion, influence, or encouragement? The subconscious hurtful effect of hearing and saying the word no dates back to when we were children – mainly from our parents, teachers, and caretakers. It was used to show disapproval, disagreement, discipline, and sometimes out of fear or with the intention to protect us.

 

It’s actually quite simple to understand why this word seizes to provide any benefit to our lives.

 

Your probably thinking – there is truth to this, but wait a minute, there has to be times were we should use the word ‘no’, especially when we are in threatening situations or when we have to show someone that they are out of line and need to show respect towards us.

 

Hmmm. Okay. Think of the last time you did that. Maybe it was a situation at work, or with your kids. How did it go? Was it comfortable? Did you feel confident? Did it end peacefully? And have you realized that when you say the word it’s usually when you are in a reactive state?

 

The good thing is there is an awesome way for you to respond so that you can be confortable, confident, and walk away from the situation in peace, and with positive results.

 

So what alternatives are there to using the word ‘no’?  Lets take a non-intrusive example. Say someone asks you if seen a recent movie staring one of your favorite actors. The question being something like, ‘Hey, have you seen the new Romantic Comedy with JR?’  You can simply answer saying.  ‘I didn’t see it’.   Here’s the thing. There isn’t a point in using two negatives – one is enough. In the example just given- the ‘didn’t’ was obviously the negative used. If you really want to be smart and thoughtful about it, you can add an enthusiastic comment like ’ I didn’t see it, I would really love to though.  Even better end it by asking the person what their thoughts are. For instance- ’ I didn’t see it, I would really love to though.  What’s the movie about?’

 

Now lets face it; we don’t have likings for everything in life.  What’s awesome is that there is always an opportunity of showing it in a productive manner.

 

You may be wondering. Okay- we saw an example of a word we should avoid using, now what about words we should be using?

 

Out of the thousands of words listed in the English Dictionary – 73 percent of them are positive. Can you imagine how good it would feel to include all that abundance of positivity every day in the form of our own communication? – Like when we speak to ourselves, our family, our friends, our colleagues, about our dreams and aspirations.  Of course this would take effort, but think about how fun it would be! Imagine the feeling of having so much power and influence you would have over yourself and others by using words that generate positive vibes and change.

 

If you have the intention to be Extraordinary, then here’s a list of extraordinary words you can add to your vocabulary.  Bonus – Many of these words can either be used in their verb, noun, adjective, and adverb forms.

 

Like I mentioned earlier, the words must be memorized to heart, to affirmed, used to give compliments to yourself and to others, in order to bring a positive glossary of vocabulary for yourself into fixed formation.

 

I advise that it is be done consistently for a period of 40 days. If done every day with effort, these words after 40 days, will become a habitual and natural part of your communication and life.

 

I have pensively selected words for you to start with. Once the 40-day period is over, it will be up to you to do your own positive word search, make a new selection, and recommence the 40-day practice exercises.

 

Here they are.

 

Abundance

Abundant

Accepting

Acceptance

Accomplished

Accomplishment

Advantageous

Appreciating

Best

Beauty

Beautiful

Blessed

Blessing

Believe

Belief

Brave

Bravery

Calm

Calming

Capable

Capability

Charisma

Charismatic

Clever

Cleverness

Complete

Completion

Decisive

Decision

Dedicated

Dedication

Determined

Determination

Deserving

Driven

Drive

Elegant

Eligible

Empowered

Encourage

Enhancing

Faith

Faithful

Fascinating

Fascination

Fiery

Focused

Fortunate

Gainful

Generous

Genuine

Glowing

Gracious

Happy

Happiness

Heaven

Healing

Healer

Health

Healthy

Honest

Honesty

Imaginative

Impressive

*Inspire*

Inventing

Inventor

Integrity

Jest

Jewel

Joy

Joyful

Jubilant

Juicy

Keen

Kempt

Kind

Kindness

Kissable

Kissing

Kingdom

Laughing

Laughter

Lead

Leadership

Liberty

Liberated

Love

Lovely

Lucrative

Master

Mastery

Money

Mindfulness

Motivation

Motivational

Mercy

Merciful

Navigate

Negotiate

Nestle

Nobel

Nurturing

Optimist

Onwards

Opportunity

Outstanding

Original

Passion

Passionate

Peace

Peaceful

Persistent

Persistence

Precision

Precise

Prosperity

Prosper

Quality

Qualify

Queen

Quintessential

Quietude

Radiant

Radiance

Respect

Respectful

Recognition

Recognizing

Risk

Risker

Romance

Romantic

Selfless

Selflessness

Sincerity

Sincerely

Smile

Smiling

Spirit

Spiritual

Strength

Strengthen

Thanking

Thankful

Team

Thoughtful

Thoughtfulness

Trusting

Trustful

Tolerance

Ultimate

United

Unity

Understanding

Uplifting

Ultimate

Vacancy

Versatile

Victory

V.I.P.

Vivacious

Warm

Wealth

Wealthy

Wise

Wisdom

Wonder

Wonderful

Worth

Worthy

Yang

Yeah

Yes

Yoga

Youth

Zap

Zeal

Zealous

Zen

Zest

Zoom

 

Hope you enjoyed this week’s inspire blog.  I ask that you have an abundance compliments and positive vibes.

 

Maryam Elle

P.S. Be Inspired!